Everyone always asks, “What happens after the show when the extravagant dates are over and there are no more helicopters and beaches?” and my response is always this. Shawn and I didn’t get those kinds of dates on the show. Our first date was a group date, which believe it or not, is not romantic. And he was in a diaper sumo wrestling. Our first one on one was kayaking in Texas, and then hanging out by a bonfire (okay fine, it ended with us in a canoe watching the fireworks). And then we went golfing. Those are pretty chill, laid back dates for the show and I’m glad it happened the way it did. We didn’t get caught up in the setting, we got caught up in conversation. We talked real talk, and did real life things. Our vision of life together wasn’t blurred with unrealistic expectations. When it came time to being together off the show ,simple things such as going for dinner, became much more romantic than any of our Bachelorette dates. There were no producers telling us what to talk about, there were no cameras, no pressure, and we could eat the food! HA!
Shawn if you’re reading this, which I’m sure you are because I will probably show you…I love you. Thank you for working through anything and everything with me. Thank you for loving how weird I am, and for still being attracted to me knowing I am Rick. Thank you for working hard and wanting to set up a beautiful life for us. Your soul is attractive to me. The way you light up when you talk about kids (and dogs) gives me all the feels. You’re loyal, funny, smart, romantic, and really friggen attractive. You’re stubborn and I can relate. You’re also very quick to admit when you’re wrong, which I cannot relate to. But you inspire me to try. The way you care for people you love has shown me how trustworthy you are. I remember once asking your sister how it’s possible that you’re THAT good looking, and still a good person. And her response was, “I know he’s my brother but, he really is”. People always ask, “What’s the biggest surprise about Shawn that you have learned after the show?”…and I’ve realized, the thing that has surprised me is that you ARE that good looking with a heart of gold. It’s something you hope for when you get engaged to someone you barely know, haha…But you don’t know until you spend real time with them. And you have surprised me with just HOW special you are. I can’t believe I found you on a reality tv show, and that I never believed in soulmates. I never knew I had a type until I met you. You are my type. I love you, Shawn B.
I always say this. People paint such pretty pictures on social media, and we have to remember that all relationships need work. We just don’t showcase our imperfections on Instagram. To be honest, I’m not sure people would want to see those things anyways. We aren’t perfect. But we are perfect for each other. Shawn and I work through things, laugh a lot, love hard, and pride ourselves on being quite “normal”. And on days like Valentine’s Day, we choose to REALLY embrace our romantic sides!! (Especially Shawn). When Shawn plans a date, I know I’m in for something more romantic than any Bachelorette date I’ve ever been on. I like to share these things with you guys because i know if you’re reading my blog it’s because you care about us and enjoy my brags. 🙂
I woke up yesterday to breakfast in bed, a foot rub, and a card on my pillow. The card had an itinerary that said 8:30am breakfast in bed, 9-10am a foot rub, and at noon we were going ballroom dancing. Seriously?? I couldn’t stop smiling and I had barely opened my eyes. This is classic Shawn. He is thoughtful, sentimental, and romantic. I got out of bed and he had a lock box out on the counter. He put his phone in it, and gave me the key. He knows I hate when we are on our phones and that was just one more thing he thought of. We took Tucker for a quick walk and headed to the dance studio. Shawn is so much fun, he can laugh at himself and do things that might make him uncomfortable – if it means something to me. We learned the rumba and started on swing! I can’t wait to go back next week. We will be professionals by the time we get married. After that we headed to the movies. I could watch musicals all day, everyday, so he took me to see La La Land. I loved every minute and that was our FIRST time at the movie theatre together. By that time it was dinner, and since we had our dinner date the night before at our favorite restaurant, we made dinner at home and crawled into bed to start a new Netflix series. It was honestly one of my favorite days with Shawn. I didn’t know how he would top his gift last year of getting Canaan Smith to sing our song to us privately while we painted a picture together. But this was just as special. I feel pretty lucky that this is the kind of guy I get to spend the rest of my life with. I never like pretending we are perfect, because we all know that no relationship is. But days like yesterday reassure me that I have found my guy and I will work hard to always be his girl.
And if you’re wondering what I did for him… Nothing. JUST KIDDING. I wrote him a book and made it into a hard cover copy called “Reasons I love Shawn B” with little stick figures of us and rhymes about why I love him. I also made a gift basket that said “I love you with all 5 senses”. Smell, I got him his favorite cologne. Taste – a Starbucks card and his favorite chocolate bar, which I’m sure I will end up eating. Sound – I went old school and got him a Blake Shelton CD. And then a couple personal gifts that you don’t need to know…TEE HEE!! Cant give it ALL away.
Thank you to everyone who constantly supports our relationship and I hope that no matter who you celebrated the day with, or even if you didn’t at all, that you still showed yourself love. Because self love is the most important.