AN OPEN LETTER TO SHAWN B., AND HOW HE MAKES OUR DATE NIGHTS MORE ROMANTIC THAN THE BACHELORETTE

Everyone always asks, “What happens after the show when the extravagant dates are over and there are no more helicopters and beaches?” and my response is always this. Shawn and I didn’t get those kinds of dates on the show. Our first date was a group date, which believe it or not, is not romantic. And he was in a diaper sumo wrestling. Our first one on one was kayaking in Texas, and then hanging out by a bonfire (okay fine, it ended with us in a canoe watching the fireworks). And then we went golfing. Those are pretty chill, laid back dates for the show and I’m glad it happened the way it did. We didn’t get caught up in the setting, we got caught up in conversation. We talked real talk, and did real life things. Our vision of life together wasn’t blurred with unrealistic expectations. When it came time to being together off the show ,simple things such as going for dinner, became much more romantic than any of our Bachelorette dates. There were no producers telling us what to talk about, there were no cameras, no pressure, and we could eat the food! HA!

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Shawn if you’re reading this, which I’m sure you are because I will probably show you…I love you. Thank you for working through anything and everything with me. Thank you for loving how weird I am, and for still being attracted to me knowing I am Rick. Thank you for working hard and wanting to set up a beautiful life for us. Your soul is attractive to me. The way you light up when you talk about kids (and dogs) gives me all the feels. You’re loyal, funny, smart, romantic, and really friggen attractive. You’re stubborn and I can relate. You’re also very quick to admit when you’re wrong, which I cannot relate to. But you inspire me to try. The way you care for people you love has shown me how trustworthy you are. I remember once asking your sister how it’s possible that you’re THAT good looking, and still a good person. And her response was, “I know he’s my brother but, he really is”. People always ask, “What’s the biggest surprise about Shawn that you have learned after the show?”…and I’ve realized, the thing that has surprised me is that you ARE that good looking with a heart of gold. It’s something you hope for when you get engaged to someone you barely know, haha…But you don’t know until you spend real time with them. And you have surprised me  with just HOW special you are. I can’t believe I found you on a reality tv show, and that I never believed in soulmates. I never knew I had a type until I met you. You are my type. I love you, Shawn B.

I always say this. People paint such pretty pictures on social media, and we have to remember that all relationships need work. We just don’t showcase our imperfections on Instagram. To be honest, I’m not sure people would want to see those things anyways. We aren’t perfect. But we are perfect for each other. Shawn and I work through things, laugh a lot, love hard, and pride ourselves on being quite “normal”. And on days like Valentine’s Day, we choose to REALLY embrace our romantic sides!! (Especially Shawn). When Shawn plans a date, I know I’m in for something more romantic than any Bachelorette date I’ve ever been on. I like to share these things with you guys because i know if you’re reading my blog it’s because you care about us and enjoy my brags. 🙂

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I woke up yesterday to breakfast in bed, a foot rub, and a card on my pillow. The card had an itinerary that said 8:30am breakfast in bed, 9-10am a foot rub, and at noon we were going ballroom dancing. Seriously?? I couldn’t stop smiling and I had barely opened my eyes. This is classic Shawn. He is thoughtful, sentimental, and romantic. I got out of bed and he had a lock box out on the counter. He put his phone in it, and gave me the key. He knows I hate when we are on our phones and that was just one more thing he thought of. We took Tucker for a quick walk and headed to the dance studio. Shawn is so much fun, he can laugh at himself and do things that might make him uncomfortable – if it means something to me. We learned the rumba and started on swing! I can’t wait to go back next week. We will be professionals by the time we get married. After that we headed to the movies. I could watch musicals all day, everyday, so he took me to see La La Land. I loved every minute and that was our FIRST time at the movie theatre together. By that time it was dinner, and since we had our dinner date the night before at our favorite restaurant, we made dinner at home and crawled into bed to start a new Netflix series. It was honestly one of my favorite days with Shawn. I didn’t know how he would top his gift last year of getting Canaan Smith to sing our song to us privately while we painted a picture together. But this was just as special. I feel pretty lucky that this is the kind of guy I get to spend the rest of my life with. I never like pretending we are perfect, because we all know that no relationship is. But days like yesterday reassure me that I have found my guy and I will work hard to always be his girl.

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And if you’re wondering what I did for him… Nothing. JUST KIDDING. I wrote him a book and made it into a hard cover copy called “Reasons I love Shawn B” with little stick figures of us and rhymes about why I love him. I also made a gift basket that said “I love you with all 5 senses”. Smell, I got him his favorite cologne. Taste – a Starbucks card and his favorite chocolate bar, which I’m sure I will end up eating. Sound – I went old school and got him a Blake Shelton CD. And then a couple personal gifts that you don’t need to know…TEE HEE!! Cant give it ALL away.

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Thank you to everyone who constantly supports our relationship and I hope that no matter who you celebrated the day with, or even if you didn’t at all, that you still showed yourself love. Because self love is the most important.

Love,

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63 thoughts on “AN OPEN LETTER TO SHAWN B., AND HOW HE MAKES OUR DATE NIGHTS MORE ROMANTIC THAN THE BACHELORETTE

  1. Susan says:

    I enjoyed reading this! Absolutely beautiful! I love your alls love for each other! It’s the love my husband and I share. It’s been 19 happy years for us so far. I know in my heart you 2 were meant to be together! Sending my love your way! Cheers 🍻 to many happy and healthy years together!

  2. Heather says:

    So many feels reading this! You guys are awesome, so happy for you!!

  3. Karrie says:

    This is amazing!!! I love seeing what both of you are up to and you both make me so happy! You are REAL! And it’s very admiring. I wish you both nothing but the best and happiness forever.

  4. Britt says:

    Looovveee this!!! ❤️️

  5. Barb says:

    Glad you found your soulmate! This letter is just wonderful!

  6. Jamie says:

    Such authentic, pure, and easy lovin’. Thank you for sharing. Also, please consider coming to Baltimore, MD for a City Strong event! 🙂

  7. Cindy Biernat says:

    Thanks for sharing! Beautiful love story, you two were and always will be my favorite couple! So real! Wishing you both the best of everything always!

  8. Crista says:

    You are by far my favorite couple.. Guys hope you live happily ever after. You deserve it after all.

  9. Canadian says:

    Love you guys! Just wondering where you got the book from…I love that.

  10. Taylor says:

    Trying not to tear up at work while reading how sweet this is hahah. Two great role models for me to look up to as a 23 year old. Wishing y’all endless happiness!

  11. Leah Mac says:

    Awe I’ve been a bachelor and bachelorette fan since the beginning and you two are my FAVORITe couple! I watch you guys on snap chat and die from laughter! I’m also with a man that makes me laugh and I can’t think of anything better then being in love with your best friend! You guys will make such cute kids! All the best!

  12. Brittany says:

    This is amazing!! I have always been such a fan of you guys and it makes me happy knowing that you’re still going strong and doing normal things. I wish you nothing but happiness and love from Canada! ❤️🇨🇦

    Ps. Rick and Donna are pretty great too!

  13. Jenni says:

    How freaking cute are y’all!!! Love it and Rick & Donna!

  14. Rae LaPlume says:

    You two are adorable. It’s so obvious how genuine your love for one another is & it’s pretty inspiring. And hilarious. Thanks for all the snap chat laughs. I especially relate to yelling @ my roomba:

  15. Elise says:

    Love this and y’all so much. So inspirational, thank you for sharing!

  16. Morissa says:

    Adorable! You both seem like such a genuine couple & I love keeping up with you. Rick & Donna are also my favorite people on the planet sooo that also helps 😍

  17. Michele says:

    This makes my heart so happy. I love you guys! Never stop sharing, your true fans will always support you.

  18. Karen says:

    You guys are just adorable!! Love following you both on snap and social media…many good laughs!

  19. Ivy says:

    Wow, loved reading this so much! <3

  20. Erin says:

    You two are the best. I always tell my husband that I love how much Shawn B. loves your crazy. Its beyond evident you have a real love. Thanks for sharing this with us. And also, your drawings are pretty great!

  21. Jilli says:

    Best bachelor couple, hands down. Y’all rock!

  22. Enja says:

    Reading this made me smile! I especially love that the fun playful relationship you guys have, Rick and Donna forever ❤️

  23. Kyli B. says:

    I love you too together! I knew he was yours from the second he stepped out of the limo. I love watching your snapchats. all time cutest couple! I wish we could dounless date. lol enjoy wonderful life that is clearly filled with love!

  24. Kyli B. says:

    double date. dang auto correct! 😊

  25. Joanna says:

    Love it! Where did you get your book made at? Great idea.

  26. Tay says:

    Ugh I love you two! Me and my boyfriend walk around saying rrrriiiick all the time 😂 XO love your posts keep ’em coming

  27. Marlene says:

    Kaitlyn thank you so much for sharing with us. I have loved you guys from the start. I knew Shawn B was the one from day 1. You guys are perfect. And yes I was smiling the entire time I read this.

  28. Raquel L says:

    You did great Rick! hahah thanks for sharing

  29. Amber says:

    I love you guys soooo much. This made me tear up! I appreciate your honestly. I only started loving you after following you guys on snapchat. I watched your season, but don’t put much stock into those relationships. I love how you can hear him laughing in the background while you’re doing something hilariously ridiculous. It’s just so important to find that person that you can 100% be YOU with and you guys just seem like such a good match for one another!

  30. I love this post. Can you tell me where you had the book done because I’d love to do something like it for our anniversary!?!?!

  31. Carrie says:

    Kaitlyn, the red lip is totally your color! Looks great! Everything about you and Shawn is just so real. Very happy for you two 🙂

  32. Cathy Frith says:

    This is ultimately the best blog post that I have read in a while, raw, honest and authentic..:)
    p.s. – Love your snap stories, SO freaking funny..

    Another Canadian gal from Vancouver

  33. JESSICA says:

    FAV BACHELORETTE COUPLE EVER! THE FUN THAT YOU HAVE TOGETHER EMULATES IN ALL YOU DO, SO HAPPY THAT YOU FOUND EACH OTHER AND CONTINUE TO SHARE YOUR LOVE STORY WITH US ALL!

    I HOPE TO ONE DAY FIND WHAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE!

  34. Coty says:

    Sending you both such love from south africa. Such a blessing to gind true love and shawn b has a heart of gold. I believe in life we have that one soul mate and are so blessed when we find them that nothing means more. I met mine 10 years ago and we have been through so much and this friday we welcome our 3rd child and first daughter into this world.

  35. Laur says:

    This is the greatest! How caring you are to each other. Thanks for sharing your relationship with us. And also for admitting its not perfect. So much love for you guys <3

  36. Maggie says:

    This makes me sooo happy. I love how much thought you both put into your gifts 🙂 you guys are so amazing together and I love how real you are

  37. Lauren C. says:

    I absolutely LOVE that 5 senses gift – I’m always trying to think of creative ideas for my hubby and I just added that to the list!! Thanks for sharing and for being so real – you guys are awesome! 🙂

  38. Taylor says:

    You are such a role model to me! This was absolutely beautiful and I am so genuinely happy for you and Shawn! Your type of relationship is the one I see my boyfriend and I having in the future.

    p.s . I live for the rick and donna snapchats I laugh so hard hahaha

  39. Vera P. says:

    Thanks for sharing a little puece of you – you two are adorable, keep snapping! Wishing only the best for you and Shawn in 2017!!

  40. Vera P. says:

    piece – silly auto correct 😑

  41. Lori says:

    I don’t read blogs but I clicked in from twitter. This was a great read!! I’m a bachelornation junkie LOL I am a mom of two grown boys so an empty nester! I follow you and Shawn B on Snapchat! They literally make my day sometimes after a long day at wk! Keep doing y’all gurrl! Your two of the best to come out of these shows!

  42. Feagaiga says:

    I love you both soo much.. Reading this got me teary. The love you both have for each other is truly inspiring. xo :*

  43. Cheryl Rannie says:

    Love this and love that you and Shawn have found each other. Every fork in the road led you to him and you are truly blessed. Maybe we will actually meet him one day 😊 Love you!

  44. Dana Shekkle says:

    I love your wit I love your strength I love your authenticity I love your snaps. I love his loyalty and steadfastness, his humor and I love how he loves you. I know he loves “you like that”.
    I love you too together…stay together and love and respect each other. Best Bach couple thanks for sharing

  45. Carolina says:

    I was smiling the whole time I read this! Love you guys! You inspire me in so many ways and I hope one day I can meet the Rick to my Donna!

  46. Kayla says:

    You are extremely lucky to have such a special man in your life to plan a day so full of fun and love. I love you guys.

  47. Kat G says:

    Wow. Just wow. What a special man you have. And, what a special woman he has. You are both so lucky! Honestly though, you could see it right away when you met! I’m just so happy to see it all work out. I’ve always been such a fan of you Kaitlyn, I see a lot of myself in you, and see so much of my husband in Shawn. (And I love that you still call him Shawn B.) To see the thoughtfulness and love between you two is so sweet and inspiring. ❤

  48. Omg you are not Rick! But frick I love Rick and Donna. Seriously you guys need your own show. I look forward to the snaps everyday, and Doodle of course. I’ve been a Shawn and Kaitlyn cheerleader from Day one. I still laugh about the snaps from right after The Bachelorette aired and you guys rode bikes in Van. And crashed weddings. So many funny moments. Any way I probably looks like a creeper now but I just LUB Ya! Keep up the good work kids! You too Doodle.

  49. Alex says:

    My boyfriend and I love the two of you. Some couples that come out of the bachelor franchise seem pretentious and fake but with you two, I see that quality that soulmates have. I cannot wait to see what the future holds for you two.

  50. Nika says:

    Forever my favorite Bachelor/ette couple. Knew it from day 1. So happy to read you’re doing so well, and these gifts are insane! Best of luck in the future, and, GET MARRIED ALREADY 😉😜😜😜😜😜

  51. Rhonda says:

    So Awesome:))

  52. Alison says:

    Love this blog! Your relationship inspires me and keeps me open and lighthearted in my relationship. I believe you both are soulmates and the funniest couple out there. 🙌🏻

  53. Alison says:

    Ps- how much does Shawn B resemble Ryan Gosling ?! Am I right or am I right 😍

  54. AD says:

    Ok well that was the cutest thing I’ve ever read =’ )

  55. Kristen Brazzel says:

    Oh my gosh, I made my husband a book from the same website for our anniversary in January and then for Valentine’s Day I did the 5 senses gift as well! So cute. Y’all will forever be my favorite bachelor/bachelorette couple! 😍

  56. pumla says:

    love,love,love- adorable couple. Welove you at our house.

  57. Suzy says:

    Love the love you both have for each other! Thanks for writing this blog and allowing many to see how a real relationship does need lots of work, but so worth it!

  58. Amanda says:

    I am so happy that you two are happy, it makes me happy.

  59. Mayara says:

    Ohh, Kaitlyn, this is so beautiful. YOU TWO are beautiful people with amazing heart. God bless you both!

  60. Jessica says:

    I love You , Shawn, & Doodle ! ❤
    I really loved reading this as well ! Thank you for sharing !

  61. Sofia Tarin says:

    Kaitlyn & Shawn, Tuck you guys crack me up!! I totally love and enjoy following you three on snap chat! The BEST BACHELORETTE COUPLE EVER!!

  62. Kaitlyn says:

    Kaitlyn, I’m so glad that I took the time to read this. I had a smile on my face the whole time. I’m so glad that you and Shawn are together, I’ve rooted for you two since the begging. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.

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